The limitations of the written word

Speaking of terrible first efforts … yes, one does have to start somewhere when wanting to write something.

But – many times, unfortunately, when I entertain the thought of journaling (or, hopefully, writing something more sophisticated, so to speak), I end up not writing about the deluge of thoughts in my head because they appear to be endless and virtually unmanageable to me. There are countless nuances, conflicting perspectives, anachronistic moments related in certain ways but not others, myriad sensations of varying flavors and intensities, heightened shivers and quivers I believe I will be unable to shape into words, …

Do you see my dilemma?

I do not feel exactly as though my problem is that I lack the set of vocabulary necessary to explain myself, as I would to describe the various details pertaining to the texture, taste, and so on of a food product as food tasters do. I simply become so enchanted (and somewhat pleasantly overwhelmed) by the experiences I wish to document or the thoughts that I wish to transcribe that I end up – as my friend’s therapist used to say – “mindfucking myself into paralysis.”

It occurred to me to record myself talking it out. Then it occurred to me that I’d never get around to transcribing the recording because it would be too tedious and I’d lack sufficient motivation.

Is it a shame? Or is the experience itself, in real time and later in fading memories, enough, or even worth more than anything words could possibly convey?

I suppose it would depend on whom you ask.

But listen: how exactly is one supposed to verbally depict mind-blowing multiple and shared orgasms and the connection felt and built with someone you are beginning to fall for? The intense mutual gazing into each other’s eyes while you caress each other, tickling, causing shivers, quick smirks lasting milliseconds, childlike giggling, a lover playing with your hair, a warm pink glow on satiated cheeks, plump seductive lips, dark and soft stubble, adorable dimples, an electrical pulse through the middle of your torso that reemerges every time you replay that one instance…?

I can’t do it.

And, listen, I’ve read erotica and overwrought Victorian novels and I can confidently tell you that it cannot be done. Nothing you can write will compare to what one feels in a moment like the one I just described. There is no way to transform sensations and feelings accurately into words – you can’t even write them so they will simultaneously coexist, because writing and reading are linear processes, and there is thus no way to transmit all coexisting experiences together, in their full intensity, uniqueness, sheen, magic (or a less hackneyed word).

No way.

Writing, alas, is a terribly limited and limiting art, system, and process. Verbal language cannot compare to that of the body and soul. As a writer, this is something I lament.

If anyone believes she/he can prove me wrong, I welcome your efforts!

05
Mar
2010

Anne Lamott on writing

If writing is a dominant part of your life – of your being – I recommend you take a look at Anne Lamott’s delightfully inspirational and honest Bird By Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life.

Because I love quotes and these are jagged and beautiful, I leave you with some words by Lamott:

  • Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life, and it is the main obstacle between you and a shitty first draft. I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won’t have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren’t even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they’re doing it.”
  • “E.L. Doctorow said once said that ‘Writing a novel is like driving a car at night. You can see only as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.’ You don’t have to see where you’re going, you don’t have to see your destination or everything you will pass along the way. You just have to see two or three feet ahead of you. This is right up there with the best advice on writing, or life, I have ever heard.”
  • “Almost all good writing begins with terrible first efforts. You need to start somewhere.”
23
Feb
2010

4 No-Brainer Questions

This useful and inspiring exercise was created by the lovely Victoria Brouhard.

What qualities would help you get that No-Brainer, “Hell yeah!” feeling about 2010?

Fun

Stability

Safety

Progress

Success

Growth

Peace

Love

Of those qualities, which ones can your business help you with? For each of them, describe how your business might help bring more of those qualities into your life.

Fun: Writing about exciting and socially mindful topics on my blogs and for work.

Stability: Find ways to steadily develop my income.

Safety: The above, plus organizing my time to better allow for the harmonious coexistence of work and volunteering at the humane society, Shiva Nata, yoga, meditation, exercises like this one, spending time in nature, and nurturing socialization.

Progress, growth, and success: Continue to learn and enrich myself through the things I write about and the strategies I come up with to stabilize my business and income. Develop new ways to help my Right People through new services or products, such as ebooks or courses.

Peace: Continue refusing to sell out working for corporations and companies/people who engage in questionable practices. In other words, keeping my conscience clean. Also, consistency to create stability and safety, as mentioned above.

Love: Continue to write from my heart, to care about what I do and how I help others with my work. Reach and connect with more people who are doing beautiful things in life through my blogs, social media profiles, and the launching of new services.

For the things you described above, what are some ideas for projects, activities or practices that you could explore to accomplish those things?

Developing steady income: Create sustainable products and courses, perhaps in collaboration with others in my field(s). Diversify my sources of income.

Organizing my time: Use my organizer and stick to schedules. Practice more planning ahead.

Reaching more people: Continue hanging out on Twitter and Facebook, increase blogging frequency and collaboration, offer new products. Maybe a newsletter; once I have the other new stuff figured out so I don’t overwhelm myself into stuckness and stagnation. Gah!

There will be some overlap as far as what qualities will increase with which projects. Are there any projects that give you more of the qualities than others?

Yes! Blogging and expanding the horizons of my business – you know, that’s a yucky word, so I’ll call it “work” – through the creation of new products and connections. Diversifying my income to perhaps make more time to nurture myself and, in turn, develop increased strength in myself that I will be able to use in my work!

Super!

Practicing the art of listening to yourself, your body, your true needs, is a gift in itself. It can be frustratingly difficult at first, but becomes easier with – wait for it – practice! Practice practice practice. What a pain in the butt. But, you know, not if you view this process as beautifully nutritious food for the soul, for the whole of you.

Besides, if you don’t nurture yourself, who will? Nobody, that’s who! And even if someone else tries, she or he will not get far without you opening the door to compassion, gratitude, and kindness to yourself. It’s like when you try to cheer up somebody suffering from low self-esteem. You can praise that person for her or his fantastic qualities all you want, but that person will keep on ignoring your words and telling you that you’re full of crap. Self-deprecation will prevail until that person is ready for transformation into self-love. Tough stuff. But never impossible!

Hey, all this self-love stuff is perfect for Valentine’s Day! May you have a happy one!

14
Feb
2010

Starting out: How’d you do it?

Recently, I’ve been helping a few job-seeking friends out by teaching them what I know about freelancing, getting started, cover letters, where to look for jobs, and tactics to make them appear professional to prospective employers (as opposed to clueless, which is often the norm at the very beginning).

I am particularly happy to help them because nobody was there to guide me when I first started, and I would like to spare others the limitations and frustration I experienced. Naturally, I would have been able to progress faster had I had a mentor or friend in the industry.

I first started applying to magazines for entry-level freelance work when I was 19. My mother, a change management consultant, helped me draft a résumé and simple cover letters, but I did not know anyone who was already writing or who even wanted to and would join me in my adventure.

For example, at first, I only applied to magazines that explicitly sought contributors. It had not even crossed my mind to apply to publications that weren’t explicitly seeking writers because I thought I wouldn’t have a chance, that they wouldn’t be interested in adding to their repertoire of writers and editors.

Then, after I transferred to New College of Florida in Sarasota and gained more writing and editing experience from working for local magazines and college newspapers, I became interested in feminist jurisprudence and animal law. The college’s savvy and sweet career counselor, Cathy, patiently answered all of my questions, taught me how to write efficient résumés and CVs, and hugged me after each consult. It worked.

But because I had been seeking employment in a completely different field, my knowledge became largely irrelevant when I decided to switch industries and delve deeper into freelance writing, editing, and translating.

Because I didn’t have a go-to buddy who shared my specific professional interests back then, I spent countless hours researching and compiling information on how to go about becoming a successful freelancer—not to mention where I could even find a decent source of job postings that applied to me.

What I would like to know is how other freelancers started out: how you learned the ropes (ack, cliché!); if you were mentored, and if so by whom and how; and what you’d advise and warn newbies about. Please feel free to share.

08
Feb
2010

The power of language and how to hone it

An old favorite, this essay originally appeared as a guest post on Pro Writing Tips.

Language, copyediting, and tips for honing your copyediting skills

I love language for several reasons: double entendres, its delicate and potentially brutal beauty, its occasional dive into the abyss of the ineffable, and its unconscious power.

We absorb outward reality—life—through language; it shapes our perceptions. For instance, most insults in the English language (and the Spanish language, among others) make disproportionate use of female gender and non-human animal designations, e.g. throw like a girl, SOB (note the B), he’s a dog, and the litany of your momma jokes. I wonder why a non-human animal as precious as a dog is used to insult a human, why there are no your pappa jokes, and why men aren’t told to get back to the garage like women are told to get back to the kitchen (which would be awful, too).

The obvious answer is that we live in a sexist and speciesist society—but I won’t go into that.

My point is that these terms, the words that we use to communicate with each other and describe the world around us, do influence the way that we see and treat each other and our surroundings. Humans have been penetrating and raping nature for centuries, violating it, and now our ecosystems are on the brink of collapse. Women are second class citizens in this world, and don’t even get me started on non-humans and other minorities. The power of language is not to be underestimated.

Words are weapons, not innocuous tools with which to craft one-dimensional “roses are red” poems. Language can neither be objective nor exist in a vacuum; it is dialogic: texts exist in and are affected by the culture system that encompasses them, including previously written works. Additionally, each reader will perceive content through her or his own mental filter, altering the text’s meaning even further. Words are, then, to be respected and employed with caution.

This is where copyediting (and, of course, writing) gets interesting. It becomes a multidimensional, unwittingly influential feat of taking over the world. Okay, not really. But a single word can, indeed, change everything. We copyeditors are trusted with a creator’s thoughts and get to manipulate them to our heart’s content. It is thus a grand job that we undertake, a privilege. I appreciate and take pride in it.

Throughout my years as a copyeditor, I have discovered tactics to help me sharpen my skills and increase my productivity. Here they are:

  • Write and copyedit yourself. Then, have a painstaking grammar geek (maybe a copyeditor you look up to) correct your work so you can learn from your mistakes.
  • Scrutinize books, newspapers, magazines, blogs, shampoo bottles in the bath—anything and everything you can get your hands on. Take notes and, if you aren’t sure, check them against a style guide or dictionary. Be vicious!
  • Visualize words to help you remember their spelling.
  • Visualize and punctuate conversations and songs in your head.
  • Use a thesaurus—and always check your word choice in the dictionary before plugging it into your text.
  • If you get a chance, take a short, mind cleansing break after copyediting a lengthy or abstruse text, and give it one last look-over before turning it in.
  • Keep it tight.
  • Stick to the active voice whenever possible.
  • Share your wisdom: if you know writers who are receptive to feedback, give it to them, especially if you are the one to edit their work. Not only will you be helping out a colleague, but you will also, hopefully, not have to correct the same mistakes time and time again anymore.
  • Give out copies of Strunk and White’s The Elements of Style (or whichever guide is most appropriate) for Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa and birthdays to lighten your workload.

The most important thing, however, is to enjoy the process. No matter how advanced your skills may be, there will always be more to learn. And this is good news! It means that there is no such thing as perfection—and if there were, our lives would surely be very boring. So be thorough, but patient; offer constructive criticism (to yourself, too); nurture your skills and others’. And have fun! Because if you don’t have fun, what’s the point?

05
Feb
2010